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or skip lunch to keep your appointment
Are you ready
to dig deep, hear your own truths,
speak your real wisdom,
courageously challenge yourself, and
make the changes you want?
If so, and you want to
start now....
All sessions held by phone
~ no commuting through traffic!
~ no dealing with parking
~ no need to leave work early,
or skip lunch to keep your appointment
Are you ready
to dig deep, hear your own truths,
speak your real wisdom,
courageously challenge yourself, and
make the changes you want?
If so, and you want to
start now....
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Act as if. This is an often used prescription given by therapists and coaches to help people lower anxiety and depression, or boost self esteem and confidence
The idea is to adopt a posture that we don't quite yet believe. Just pretend, just act as if
The purpose of the Pretending All is Good or act as if exercise is to give ourselves the chance to find out that what we have been telling ourselves was never true in the first place.
And by acting as if we believe it's not true now -- and paying attention to what happens and how we feel -- we can collect the direct experiential evidence that makes a convincing argument for letting go of faulty beliefs.
There can be a downside to this strategy, however. Pretending all is good all the time has another name in the therapy world -- it's called being in denial of the truth.
Being in denial can be a problem if it perpetuates disappointment, or conflict with others, or leads you into making unwise decisions. In psychological terms it may even be considered a warning sign indicating mental delusions and other diagnostic issues.
But the more usual problem is that we just get tired of keeping up a happy face when we're feeling unappreciated, unnoticed, and unfulfilled.
Maybe that's when acting as if it's ok to let others see that you're unhappy will actually help.
The idea is to adopt a posture that we don't quite yet believe. Just pretend, just act as if
- you're good enough
- you're talented enough
- everything will be fine
- nothing bad will happen
- no one will notice the zit on your nose
The purpose of the Pretending All is Good or act as if exercise is to give ourselves the chance to find out that what we have been telling ourselves was never true in the first place.
And by acting as if we believe it's not true now -- and paying attention to what happens and how we feel -- we can collect the direct experiential evidence that makes a convincing argument for letting go of faulty beliefs.
There can be a downside to this strategy, however. Pretending all is good all the time has another name in the therapy world -- it's called being in denial of the truth.
Being in denial can be a problem if it perpetuates disappointment, or conflict with others, or leads you into making unwise decisions. In psychological terms it may even be considered a warning sign indicating mental delusions and other diagnostic issues.
But the more usual problem is that we just get tired of keeping up a happy face when we're feeling unappreciated, unnoticed, and unfulfilled.
Maybe that's when acting as if it's ok to let others see that you're unhappy will actually help.
Not quite sure when acting as if is appropriate?
Schedule a free 20 minute consult now
and I'll help you determine that
Schedule a free 20 minute consult now
and I'll help you determine that
Pretending
Creative Alternatives Coaching
and InnerJourneyWork spiritual counseling should not be
mistaken for psychotherapy.
I work exclusively with adults who
Need to know more about how coaching or spiritual counseling would benefit you?
and InnerJourneyWork spiritual counseling should not be
mistaken for psychotherapy.
I work exclusively with adults who
- tolerate discomforts of change
- decide what's best for themselves
- know strong emotions are okay
- don't need to be fixed
- want options, resources, ideas
- and accountability to help
- create the life they want
Need to know more about how coaching or spiritual counseling would benefit you?